I had big plans for my 50th birthday party. Huge! Destination island (I had my eye on Sardinia), lots of food, sunshine, champagne and all my favourite people gathered together to celebrate my half century with me. A bacchanalian Festival of Chryss! But alas, it was not to be, for Miss Rona had other plans. I couldn’t even go back home to see my family and friends, as Australia had completely shut its borders to travellers. Even citizens. Even me!!! Two years in the making, my grand plans for a birthday extravaganza were cruelly shattered; but please don’t bother opening the case of your tiny violin for me just yet. For, as soon as it became clear that my plans had gone to shit, I consoled myself by booking a trip to Greece with David. And the cherry on top of the birthday cake was that one of my best friends in the world, Marya, and her partner Pablo, flew all the way from California to join us!!
The four of us rendezvoused at Athens airport the day before my birthday, and hopped on an afternoon flight to Zakynthos, excited to be starting our Greek adventure together. As we approached our magnificent villa, set in a vast olive grove, we were greeted by a symphony of cicadas welcoming us.. This thunderous sound, which was foreign and peculiar to Marya’s ears, felt like home to mine. Over the last few years, Greece has become so much more to me than just a holiday destination. It is a place I have developed a very deep connection to, and an abiding love for. I feel my roots starting to take hold in Greek soil, and I see myself settling down there once our Dubai hijinks are over and done with (hopefully sooner, rather than later).
For dinner, we strolled to the local taverna, Armonia Restaurant, which was only a two minute walk from our place. We ordered delicious food and, as is the Greek way, got absolutely shitfaced on barrel wine and raucous laughter. After we were gently encouraged to please go home by the tired taverna staff, the four of us tipsily staggered through the olive trees back to the villa for a swim. Less than five minutes after jumping in the pool we all kind of looked at each other and collectively decided we didn’t really need to be wearing swimsuits, right? We were all friends. We were all grown ups. So the bathers came off and we basically spent the rest of the holiday in our birthday suits! How apt! The next couple of hours very much lived up to the name of this ejo series. Drinking copious amounts of wine, quaffing cocktails and doing shots of mastiha. Completely nude, we frolicked in the water and we gallivanted around the garden and we laughed and laughed and laughed until my sides hurt. I was having the time of my life.
Until… I stupidly (oh, so stupidly) slipped on the wet tiles as I was running (running??!!!) back to the pool from the kitchen. I remember becoming airborne, as if I’d just slipped on a cartoon banana peel, and when I came down I landed on my back on the sharp edge of the pool. I blacked out for a few seconds and came to in the water, engulfed in agony and unable to breathe. Winded by the fall I struggled to take a breath and, panicked, my first thought was that I’d broken my back. But as air entered my lungs and I dramatically bawled in Marya’s comforting embrace, I gratefully realised that I was still able to move my arms and legs. Still, I knew something was terribly wrong and the next morning I woke up in the most excruciating pain I’ve ever experienced in my entire life. I have violently snapped most of the ligaments in my knees, I’ve broken bones and I’ve been hospitalised (and operated on) for my dreadful habit of rupturing ovarian cysts. I know pain. But I’ve never felt anything like the pain I felt that morning. The drama queen in me imagined that my insides were awash with a tsunami of blood, that my pancreas or my lung had been pierced by an errant stiletto of rib bone. It hurt to talk, it hurt to laugh, it hurt to move, it hurt to breathe. It hurt to just sit there and do nothing. You know that little violin we were talking about earlier? You can take it out now. Happy 50th birthday to me!!!

Agonisingly slowly, and wallowing in self-pity, I showered and dressed, and gingerly tiptoed down the stairs to join the others. We were all horribly hungover and I was shocked to learn that David had also drunkenly injured himself the night before, breaking his little toe after slamming it into the coffee table. Oy vey!! This was not a healthy start to our holiday, but I was grittily determined to keep having a goddamn good time. I made a quick birthday video call to my sisters, which was wonderful, but I could see myself on the screen, wincing with pain the whole time. I didn’t know it then, but x-rays later confirmed that I’d broken three ribs and displaced another rib in my fall. I mean, I hit the edge of the pool really fucking hard. If I’d made any contact with my spine, mere centimetres to the right, I’m fairly certain I’d have broken my back. And if I’d hit my head, I reckon I’d be dead. So it’s no surprise that I was feeling so rough. In fact, I was in severe pain for the next two months, and experienced a great deal of discomfort for the next six. The others wanted me to go to hospital but I demurred. There’s no treatment for rib injuries and I just wanted to bloody get on with the festivities. We spent my birthday at the villa, barbequing tender lamb chops for a feast accompanied by home-made tzatziki, fetta cheese, Greek salad, olives and crusty fresh bread. And lots more wine, which definitely helped ease the pain of my injury.
The next day, feeling slightly less like I was haemorrhaging from multiple internal organs, I insisted that we carry on with our plans for the day, and so we took a lovely scenic drive to a highly recommended restaurant set on a cliff face on the northern part of the island. When we got to Taverna Xigia, we were absolutely blown away by the spectacular view. Peacefully nestled in the shade of several beautiful, stately trees, the restaurant was the perfect place to while away the afternoon, eating fish that had jumped out of the water fresh that morning, and drinking several large carafes of wine (my new pain medication). All the servers were beautiful and super friendly, but Pablo had eyes only for the owner, Spiros, who was cheerfully running from table to table to make sure that everyone was happy. And we all were! Pablo was particularly riveted by the jaunty red bandana, breezily tied around Spiros’ neck. The same bandana that was also sported by his cute little dog!! At the end of our meal we resoundingly declared Taverna Xigia the best lunch, at the best taverna, with the best view, run by the best dude wearing a fucking amazing red bandana.
The next day while lunching at the top of a mountain, we spotted a gorgeous looking beach and decided to drive down there for a swim. From my previous beach experiences of the Greek isles I had already insisted that we buy a couple of large beach umbrellas to protect us from the sun, but when we got there we didn’t need them. Actually, in the whole five days we spent on Zakynthos we never once used those damn umbrellas. In the end we lugged them to the airport with us on our way back to Athens and gave them away to a rental car full of exuberant, young Italian studs who had just arrived on the island. They were thrilled, and beeped and waved at us as they drove away.

When we landed at Athens airport, we headed straight to the port of Piraeus where stage two of the holiday kicked in. Pablo had worked hard in the months leading up to the trip to attain his Captain’s license, and when we got to the port the magnificent 34 foot sailing boat we had rented was waiting for us. Hell yes, bitches!! For my fiftieth birthday I spent three glorious days cruising the ravishingly beautiful, deep blue seas of the Mediterranean. It may not have been the legendary party I’d set my heart on, but it was hardly second prize, am I right?
While our time on the yacht, cruising around the beautiful Saronic islands, was an absolutely exhilarating experience, it was also pretty punishing. I was, unfortunately, less than useless thanks to my smashed ribs. I was unable to help with any of the rigging, and I just found myself getting in the way all the time. I felt particularly bad because it turns out that sailing a boat is actually really hard work. Thankfully Marya and David (even with his broken toe) both stepped up to the plate, and made very competent first mates to Pablo’s skillful captain!
At the end of the first day of sailing, we reached the island of Salamina, anchoring offshore. Ludicrously, we’d severely underestimated our capacity for knocking back wine and had tragically run out of booze, but David and Pablo came to the rescue by rowing the dinghy to shore in the dark to try and procure some emergency wine from the taverna on the beach. Somehow they managed to sweet talk the owners into selling them some white wine, which almost became wine for the fishes because halfway back to the sailboat the dinghy slowly started sinking. They somehow made it back, deflated dinghy and all, and we celebrated with a cheerful round of warm cat piss! Hey, you take what you’re given in a wine emergency. We drank it and we were grateful for it.
The next day we set sail for the neighbouring island of Aegina, but there was no wind so we drifted along at a crawling pace, which was fine with us. There was nowhere we needed to be! Along the way we navigated into some incredibly beautiful turquoise waters, and just had to stop and anchor so we could all go for a skinny dip! When we got back on the boat, Marya ran to the bow to hoist the anchor, and while she was gone I thought I heard her shout something so I yelled back to ask if she was OK, and she cried out, “No!” Pablo, David and I all dashed to the front of the boat, and when I saw all the blood I scrambled back to the cabin to try and find the first aid kit. While she’d been pulling up the anchor, Marya’s toes had got caught in the steel-sprung latch door which had unexpectedly slammed shut. Her foot was covered in blood and her second toe was dangling precariously. I’ve known Marya for many years and I’ve never seen her cry before. To see her sobbing like a child broke my heart, and I did my best to comfort her while she bandaged up her foot. My mind couldn’t help but go back to just a few days earlier when she had held me in her arms after I’d hurt myself in the pool.
I first met Marya in San Francisco in September 1999 when I visited a friend that she was dating at the time. She picked me up from the airport, and it is no exaggeration at all to say that when our eyes met across the crowded terminal I knew it was her, and she knew it was me, and it was love at first sight. And ever since then, we’ve been connected by an energetic force that I cannot explain, and don’t even want to. Despite spending most of our lives thousands of miles apart, our bond has only increased and become more loving with distance and time. On that first three day visit to San Francisco I got to know one of the most incredible people I’ve ever met. She’s fun, energetic, warm, kind, quirky, loving, hilarious and up for anything. Crushing on her hard, I decided that I simply had to get a nose ring just like hers. So she took me to a piercer in Haight Ashbury and she held my hand as they stuck a needle in my left nostril. And 24 years later, I still have that nose ring. I’ll never take it out because it’s an enduring memento of an incredibly special moment of time in my life. It’s a part of who I am now.
Marya and I have been there for each other (emotionally, if not physically) through rough patches and broken relationships, and we’ve happily celebrated the beautiful relationships that we’re in now. We danced together in Ancient Korinth with my parents, not long before my father was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer. Afterwards we lay on the stony beach, drunk, looking for shooting stars and holding onto each other while the sky spun. We survived Burning Man, not just once or twice, but three times, riding bikes around the playa completely naked and free. We’ve eaten all the Mexican food, and we’ve washed it down with all the margaritas. Marya is now a very respected audiologist, but years ago she worked in hospitality and I remember helping her out at a bartending gig one day when one of the servers didn’t turn up. Let’s just say that a lot of people got free drinks that night! I totally sucked at the job, but thanks to Marya it was one of the most fun afternoons I’ve ever had. I’ve often wished that I could marry her. Or be her.
Marya and I have had some intensely deep and serious conversations about mental health, about motherhood, about existence and non-existence. We’ve kissed, and we’ve shared our inner most secrets, and supported each other during the most difficult times. And it’s really quite outrageous how much of all of this has happened from afar. Marya lives 12,963km away from me so we don’t see each other very often, but whenever we’re together magic happens! And for the last 16 years, David has been lucky enough to come along for the joyride. I’m so happy that the two of them are such good friends, and I feel so grateful that David understands the unusually deep relationship that I have with Marya. He knows how important she is to me. I’d go anywhere for Marya, I’d do anything for her. And, thrillingly, I believe that she feels the same way. Apart from my own mother, I’ve never met anyone who is as unconditionally loving and giving and kind. I’m still shocked by how smitten she seems to be, because I honestly can’t believe my luck that such an extraordinary person could feel that way about me. I cannot express in words how much I love her. But surely you’re getting the idea.


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We had to get Marya to a hospital stat, so we abandoned any hope of trying to catching some wind, and just furled the sails, switching on the engines to try and motor along a little faster. Our progress was, nevertheless, painfully slow and it took us an interminable three hours to reach the port of Aegina. The guys dropped us off while they tried to find somewhere to dock, which would be no easy task in the crowded marina. When Marya and I got to the hospital the medical staff attended to her right away. They weren’t able to put any stitches on her toe, but they cleaned up the wound and bandaged her foot, telling her to come back the next day to have the dressing changed. Marya was shocked that we were able to walk away without having to sign anything or even pay a single eurocent. Yay socialised healthcare!

When we all got back to the boat later that afternoon, some major drama was brewing about where we’d parked it. Some big shot in a fancy yacht was insisting that we were in his spot and had to move, like right now. We’d already spent a couple of hours after a long, boozy lunch in town cajoling the harbour master, jumping through hoops and greasing her palm with an expensive bottle of wine, to allocate us that spot. So obviously we didn’t want to move. But the guy on the big cruiser started getting a little thuggish and causing quite the brouhaha. Eventually the harbour master came down and told us we’d have to move our boat after all. Even after we’d bribed her!!! How rude. But she was kind enough to give us another mooring close by, and Pablo and David did a magnificent job of getting the 34 footer into the tight space while Marya rested in the cabin and I watched from the floating dock. After all the kerfuffle, a crowd had gathered to watch the guys back the boat into position, which is no easy feat in the best of circumstances, let alone under pressure, but they nailed it.
We decided that it was probably a good idea, after all the shenanigans, to stay in Aegina for the next couple of nights and try to stay out of trouble. Three of us had been pretty badly injured, and we were worried that some Final Destination type misfortune might befall Pablo if we took the sailboat back out onto the open waters. Aegina was delightful and I’m really glad we got the chance to stop and enjoy the pretty town.
Before we knew it though, our last day on the boat dawned and we pushed off super early so we could get a headstart on our trip back to Piraeus. When we finally reached the port after a long day of sailing the four of us were totally wrecked. We were exhausted, we were sunburned, and after three and a half days without a shower we were all absolutely filthy. We walked into our Athens Airbnb like zombies and just collapsed. Somehow we regrouped, showered and mustered up the energy to go out on the town, but it was a pretty sedate evening and I think we all appreciated the early night and the comfortable beds.
The next day at the airport we said goodbye to each other as Marya and Pablo headed back to the US, and David and I moved on to stage three of our Greek holiday, a couple of weeks on the island of Naxos!! Marya being with me on my 50th birthday had made it a profoundly special celebration for me. And despite some events making it a difficult holiday, it was also one of the best. Just before we parted ways we joked that Pablo had somehow evaded the Final Destination injury that had befallen the rest of us on the trip. And he, donning his new red bandana effortlessly knotted around his neck, quipped back that he had in fact been injured after all. With liver damage. Which is how it goes when you’re drunk in…











